Hey, hope you don't mind me butting in, but Lost seems to be off here for today, and I didn't want you to think no one was listening.
How do you get to hear his voicemail?Does he know you check it? Is he working in another state, or does he live there?
Ah, the single buddies. Before my H and I seperated, there seemed to be a sepeartion/divorce disease bug going around. seemed like every time he came home from work he told me about another guy he knew that was splitting with his wife. We were next. So, now all his "single" buddies band together and they go out whoopin it up. Its like the secret brotherhood of the recently unwed. Thats probably your H's motive operandi. As for how those women get his number, he gives it to them, probably in front of his buddies so he doesn't look like a wussy.If you trwo are working on your M, I doubt he is calling them back, and you would be able to tell by the messages they leave. If they are saying Hey baby you were great last night, or I can't make that dinner date, you've got your answer. If they are just saying hey call me, he is probably not. Panic can set in easy. Why is he not calling you? Are you calling him all the time? Does he talk to your kid on a regular basis? One of the hardest things for me to do is NOT call. I miss my H and would give anything to have him call every day. I have to fight every day not to call and just say hey whats going on. Will your H be coming back to your state soon? If he broke up with OW , chances are he is done with her. You need to follow the advice I have been gettig here- friendly, act as if, and make your life worth living for you (this is tough when all you think about is HIM) .One of the things that I have been told is that eventually all those single buddies find something else to do. Every night can't be Saturday night.
You may need to call him regarding your child, when you do, act totally upbeat, say that things are good there, maybe mention something fun you've done, and you end the call first. DO NOT ask what he has been up to. Do not ask when he coming home. No relationship talk. (I know all this is sooooo hard, It takes so much out of me I fel like I worked out for an hour after a phone call)But it seems to be working for so many other people here. And the very worst scenario is they don'tr come back but maybe we can be better if we work on ourselves. I am trying so hard to do this. Its such a struggle when you know they are out there having blast while you cry yourself to sleep. You have a child to live for. Join something, work out look your best, I find that when I look really good it just boosts my PMA .I will keep a good thought for you.