Well, there I was, dressed nicely, good PMA going. He shows up on time. Comes in, says "You're probably gonna want to kill me, but...I had a really bad BAD day at work I am not gonna be good company. I was riding over here, and I was going to just call you, and hoped my mood would be better, but its not." I asked if he wanted to talk about it and asked that wasn't he was supposed to have a short day, which appaerently he did not,not at all, but he said no, he didn't wanna talk about it .He wasn't nasty. He said he was just gonna go for a long long ride and chill out. To which I surprised the living hell outta myself and said "hey-no problem. I am sorry you had such a bad day" He said "I know you're gonna be upset.." To which I replied "Nope, not really ,I understand. Its not a problem" As I walked him out I said again if he wanted to talk about it.What was it at work- did you get fired? Nope, but it was all work related . He said a couple of things about what went on.Yeah, that stuff was annoying, but he awas leaving out alot of SOMETHING, I am sure. He said he was sorry a few times during the conversation. I couldn't help thinking if this had something to also do with HER. I was AWSOME- I was upbeat and friendly -yet empathetic and validating. He said he was sorry again, he was really looking forward to this tonight-this morning when he talked to me. Then I said again, well, hope tomorrow is a better day than today for you. Be careful driving, its not good to drive with so much on your mind. Maybe we can do this another time,ok? And the he says "I promise we will do it soon ok, honey?"and he kissed me goodbye. He seemed like he was genuinely sorry, but at the same time he wanted to leave.He must have been here all of 10 minutes. But the big surprise was me- I didn't cry, I didn't get mad,I was a friend, I pretty much detached myself and try to see what was really going on here... Of course after he left --I sat down and speculated as to the reasons for the hasty departure. 1.)- Ok, you had a hellava day. And he said he was looking forward to tonight by his own admission. So wouldn't it stand to reason that spending the time with me make your day better???(see "He's just not that into you")
2.)- "We'll do this soon , I promise, ok honey" Well, if you felt REALLY that bad about cancelling wouldn't you already have another date in mind? Like tomorrow or Friday or Saturday?Or do you plan to have a bad day those days too???? 3.)-He DID look tired and stressed, and I would really rather NOT have him spend time with me if he is gonna be a grumpy butthead. This whole thing has been stressful enough. 4.)- Maybe the work related stuff also had to do with her. Whiole my H is not the type to be pressured, he definetly looked pressured and stressed tonight. 5.)- While he did seem sincere, it is entirely possible that something better came along like HER, or some event that he would rather go to, or thought that was cancelled, but now was back on. 6.)- It was almost dark by the time he got here, so thats why I think there must be something else besides his bad mood. 7.)- While I was happy he wanted to schedule this time with me, now thats its cancelled and he beat a hasty retreat I will NOT call or text. The next move is up to HIM.
