Hi sportster, was just reading your post and I felt your anger and your pain. A couple of things to remember--DON'T LISTEN TO FAMILY or FRIENDS unless they can be open minded and non-judgmental. I'm sure you've read in DR about this. They love you and are all going to take your side because they don't want you to be hurt. I have also told myself that my H likes his new life and independence and won't come back--but the more I DB and leave him alone, the more I see hope. We are spending more and more time together even though we aren't living together or wearing our rings. We are taking it slow and I am relaxing more and more. I am DBing as hard as I can, getting counseling and taking prozac to help me with my anxiety attacks and depression. You are very angry and hurt and you have every right to be. But you can decide to "act as if" you aren't around him. You can smile everytime you talk to him and let him see that you have a good life too--don't talk about R or what you are going to do, just work on you and let him see the differences. If you want to keep DBing than by all means do! Follow your heart--not the advice of friends and family. It's the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but I think you will be happier with you in the long run.
