I'm sorry that I don't have much advice regarding your sitch, however I can say that ours are very similar. My H is 29 and I just turned 30 on 10/1. We have been married 8 years and together for 10 years.
This is the second time that H and I are separated, and the first time he was "IN LOVE" with an OW. The OW was also from another state, and he was actually residing in the same state at the time and they hooked up. He had only known her for 2 months and was willing to lose everything with me for her.
He was absolutely HORRIBLE to me during this time. He also made up lies to his friends and MY family (my cousins that he hangs out with) about things I had done, to sorta justify why he HAD to leave me. I couldn't believe the lies he was telling. My H also went out of his way to express his happiness. I COMPLETELY ignored him after learning about her. (AWW, it was so much easier then I don't know why)
He then began to take MUCH more interest in me and what was going on with me. He then told me he wanted to be with me about 1 month later and I accepted him back with open arms. Which is pretty much why I believe I am going through this again. We had no counseling and everything went to right back to the way it had been. (that was before I found DB)
What I am basically trying to say is that sometimes things CAN turn around pretty quickly. My H told me we would NEVER, EVER be together again. (pretty much saying the same thing now) However, he did return when he learned that I was moving on.
I'm babbling, but I just wanted to share with you. I have a post in NEWCOMERS with a link to my sitch, hopefully you can stop by and take a peek into my update and what is going on.
I hope today is a good day for you.
Take care, AMI
H-29
amIow(me)-30
son-8
married 8 yrs
"together" 10 yrs
