I have lost my soulmate to OW

[So Very Tired]

Sometimes I feel funny giving advice because I am so lost in my situation...but if I were you right now, I would totally avoid conversations about the divorce costs with him. Just leave it alone. He wanted out, so let him pay! Did he think this would be easy and free?? Too bad! If he takes this to the end you have to think of yourself and your son. If the law says you are entitled to something, Get IT! DOn't let him talk to you and get you sad and scared etc. Those laws were put there for a reason. My husband told me a year ago that he wanted a divorce...I mentioned some of the things involved and costs and he did the same thing! He got all upset that I would actually want the things that the law says I am entitled to. I let him know that if he wants to divorce me that at that point it is no longer US it's ME and I need to take care of my future and the future of my children. Why should I care if he does not have that much money left over at the end of the month after child support and alimony??? Why would that be my concern anymore? Why do these men think that we are supposed to care about their financial sitation after they leave us? My husband was furious when I told him that someone told me that I am allowed a portion of his retirement! He said "I'm not taking any of YOUR retirement, why are you planning on taking mine?" They don't get it. I am a waitress, what retirement am I going to get? He was even saying that he was going to try and see if I could not get any alimony. Fat chance! You might not get EVERYTHING you want, but if you stick to your guns you will get alot more than these men want to leave you with, which is chump change. My husband said that after he was through giving me money that he could be left with $40 a month. Oh well. Get a second job then.
You wanted out. Get out. Pay. Deal with it. ok I have spewed enough poison.
Just don't let him talk you out of reasonable things. Right now he does not have your best interests at heart. Maybe one day he might come to his senses and think about what he is doing but right now he is all about himself and you have to protest yourself.