Thanks mem! I really hope it is the beginning of the end for them I really do! I just hate not knowing how long it will take you know. And yes reality has hit hard I cant believe he actually thought we could go through a D w/o lawyers especially with S3! And Im sure she will start to dictate when he sees S3 maybe not in the beginning but it will start to happen and if H is smart enough to see that she is doing it. And I cant help but still have hope that he will realize his mistake and have enough courage to try and find his way home and for me to have the strength to DB my butt off if he does try. And I know the OW wants to keep him mad at me because that means he is staying close to her but when he is having to pay all his bills (which I added up and all his toys cost him about $1000 a month) and she wants her $$ for rent and stuff and if he doesnt have all of it will she put up with it? And I really hope he can start thinking for himself soon you know. He had slight doubts moving up there to begin with (said a couple months ago to me could be the biggest mistake of his life) course he could have been just feeding that to me too
