InaMess actually H thought it was a really touching email and he said it looked like alot of thought went into it so yeah I would say it definitly gave him something to think about. What you wrote were the exact qualities that I failed in our R and when I read that I was like wow thats what I want to tell him but could never figure out how to word it!!! I mean it got him to initiate an R talk, although he is still moving in with OW but hopefully he kept that email and when ever he doubts living me or being with her he can read that and know that I know where I failed. THANKS!!! LostInFl