Well I have seen a picture of OW on the internet, and she is not all that. I found out where she worked (before DB/DR days , and saw her profile.) So it is definitely not looks. My husband has still told me he thinks I am a beautiful woman.

Girls, it's not looks, its how they FEEL. How we made them feel, and their own issues about how they make themselves feel. Right now, it is all about them.

LIF- I totally relate to the pg thing. My second, now S4 was hard to conceive. We got into the sex rut to make a baby, not make love. Emotional highs and lows etc., it took us about a year to get pg the 2nd time (D8 was a first month try.)

Funny, as I think about it, that is around the time H said feelings started to slide. I never put that together before, thank you.

Actually, I have talked to OW. My C said he thought I should call her from a christian woman to a christian woman. I still pray for both H and OW.

Don't hate OW, it adds fuel. It's not entirely her fault either, our H's are just as responsible unless OW tied them up and had her way with them. OW is just as lost and confused if she thinks it's o.k. to start a R with a married man with a family (or even no family yet). Eventually H will generally come around.

Stay focused on growing yourself, and being a good parent. H will eventually see his errors, that it is easy being in a R with no realy responsibilities. I think a lot of this is just escape from all of the hard stuff of life. That will not change in the next R, it will just be with a new person. One day they will have to figure out that they cannot run from reality. Hopefully they will figure it out before the get a D.

Love you all, and reading your posts, you all really help me a lot.