yeah it does feel like we are IM'ing hehe Yeah very funny how the sitch are soo similiar although my H's OW didnt actually leave her H for about a month after her and H have been hooked up. My H thinks if he changes R's that he will be better off but what he doesnt realize...yet anyways...is that that R is more doomed to failure then Ours is but thats for him to find out, at least a good + is if they do break it off and my H wants to work it out at least she lives 400 miles away so it will be easier for him to break away from her then if they worked together or she lived in this town. I would just have to worry (well try not to anyways) about them seeing E/A when she came here to visit her mom. yeah this MLC thing is very interesting but with my H only being 28 could that be what he is going through already?? LF
It could very well be a MLC for your H too. Somewhere on Michele's home page or in the main index there is an article about the "anytime mid-life crisis." It says a person can even be in their early 20's and have one.
I wish my H's OW lived 400 instead of 30 miles away! I guess it doesn't matter really. What ever is going to happen is going to happen.
I don't think it matters much what the other woman looks like either or even acts like. My husband fell in "love' with a rather plain woman and she was actually a real bitch once you scratched off the first layer of her! She is just not you and I guess to these aliens that is all that matters.
Losing him does not matter, it is YOU who will be found and cherished. -Joy Luck Club
I see you are new. Sorry you are here, as well. You're right about OW. I've been trying to get in my H's OW's head (I've never seen her in person or met her) so I can be happier, sweeter, smarter, cuter, etc. so I can kick her a$$, metaphorically. I'll check out your thread. Good luck DBing.
And ladies don't forget this as sweet and nice and lovely as she might seem to your husbands, and her family and friends she is out with a married man...something is wrong with a person that will do that,just plain WRONG! At least the spouse can trump up lame excuses about not being happy in the marriage but what is the homewreckers excuse?!?! he only OW or OM that I will forgive is the one that didn't know? (and they should stop once they know) Anyway I know we should not focus on the OW, but sometimes it is hard to stop. And we are trying not to hate our husbands because we want to continue to have a relationship with them. The OW is easy to hate...we don't ever plan to have a friendship or relationship with her!
Losing him does not matter, it is YOU who will be found and cherished. -Joy Luck Club
I have just read your thread and like the others our sitch's seem similiar, sucks doesn't it.
My H has left me and moved in with his OW who is plain, dull and has just left her H because she didn't want children. My H and I were trying for a baby!!!! Can you make sense of that 'cos I can't. My friends do not understand it. I know it doesn't matter what they look like but I thought personality would count. OW has no personality, how do I know this??? She knows me and my S10....bitch. She knew he was off limits so neither of them have any morals or respect.
If you get the chance look at my thread in Martial Problems - Feel like giving up.
hgl I will check out your thread! I cant understand these H's! All of my friends and H's friends tell me what is he thinking why is he doing this i dont understand why he is throwing away everything to move in with her etc... So if HIS friends dont even understand then how am I! I wish our H's would wake up and smell the coffee and realize the choices they are making! And one thing H told me was that the OW has very similiar personality as me (when we started dating anyways) and Im like but Im right here in front of you!!!! I dont get it! LF
When the aliens come and take them why do they leave the bodies behind??
What we are going through is the worst experience of my life and I've had cancer which was awful. How can one person willingly inflict such pain on another?? And as for the OW, well IMHO they need shooting.
yes why do they leave their bodies behind Im sorry for you having to go through this and having to go through having cancer as well! i will never understand how someone that claims to have once loved you with all their heart and soul can hurt you like this when they are at their low point in their life. I want to shoot the person that invented the phrase I didnt want to hurt you.... LF
