HI lost in FLA, sorry it took me so long to find you over here. I've been on the Newcomers side for a while. MLC's are the worst aren't they? One thing I can say, is if you want your M then just hand tough and STAND!!!. No way a R formed in 2 days is going to last. The logistics are impossible. You have a right to leave and file D. Don't forget that. But if the reason you are on this site is to save your M, then you have to do certain things. Number one is realizing that pride will not get you what you want. Yes it hurts. No what our H's are doing is not right/justified/or God sent as they may try to tell you. No, it is probably not your fault if your H like mine, failed to let you know they were having issues in the R's.
Step one is that you have to let them come to their own conlusions about your M. We cannot convice them, cry in front of them enough, or rationalize with them at this point. They have already convinced themselves of all the necessary reasons to "justify" their actions. They are not about to listen to you/us and say "oops, I didn't think about that".
Step 2: Let H make all of the D moves. Right now you are seperated, so at least the OW is not in your face everyday. Take this time to figure out what impact you had if any in the deterioation of your M, and then do the 180's. B/C you have a S3, you will certainly be in a lot of contact with H to show him the changes. You are probably already beautiful, but make sure that you always look GREAT in his presence.
Step 3: I noticed that you are a believer. Put your faith in the Lord. Check out in your free time. Another great support sight focused on Godly restoration. I find both of these sites extremely helpful.
Step 4. Work on being o.k. with yourself. Pray for the best, be prepared for everything. But don't YOU initiate and further proceedings. Stall if you can. These things take time. This is my 5th going on 6th month of this. There are small tiny improvements here and there, and then there are times like this weekend. Even though this morning I was very teary eyed, I am feeling better. I Read a little of the Word.
Later this afternoon, H called on his way out of town to ask me my opinion on a situation he was having at work. He still values so much about me. I feel strengthened that God will show him the love he has for me. Just try to stay focused on things you can change for you and S3. Be a good mommy for him. Read DR and DB and check out the website. I will try to keep up with your sitch. Thanks for hanging out on my thread.
