4 months ago on 6/13 my husband decided to tell me (and mind you this was our 6th anniversay DAY!) that he was not sexually attracted to me and that he needed to leave me. I was at a loss I was soo shocked I didnt know what to do! He left and came over the next night to watch our son while I had to stay late at work. When I came home we talked and I told him what he meant to me and he said he had no idea I still felt like that and that he was sorry for hurting me but he just didnt have any feelings for me. He said he had been feeling different for almost a year but never could tell me he thought it would "get better on its own". Well I preceeded to find out that he met someone 2 days before leaving me in a bar and that he has feelings for her and needs to "explore" those feelings. I had a hard time believing that he feels for someone just 2 days after meeting them so I did check cell phone records, home phone records, emails and the very first phone call that came or went to NC (thats where she lives we are in FL) was on 6/14. Well 4 months later we are still living apart he sees her on a regular basis whether she travels down here or he goes up there and that she has left her hubby as well and has now rented a house to which he has recently helped her move into and he also states that he will be moving up there after the 1st of the year and that he is now giveing her $$ to help pay for the rent of the house. (Now a little back story we have a 3yr old son she has 3 children only 1 is with her though we are both 28 she is 34 her kids are 15,14,and 9 she wont move here says he has to move there of course he thinks its best all around if he just leaves and basically runs away and this is her 2nd marriage and also the 2nd time she has left him) I try to talk to him and show him that she is using him regardless of how much she says she loves him and cant live without him BS because if a married woman walks into a bar alone she is "shopping" she wants out of her marriage but doesnt want to be alone to do so. And if he was already having these feelings of no self worth and along comes this woman that makes him feel all warm and fuzzy he is latching completely on to her and totally walking away from our life together. Im not standing up for him by no means but I do still love him and I want to remain married to him and I know I have to let him go to make him see the mistake he is making and that the inner issues he has (he is doing what his mom did to him and his sister) will not go away just because you are with someone new. And he says he could be making the biggest mistake of his life but that he has to find that out on his own and I am like so in the meantime your throwing your family away for a CHANCE!! He also seemed to mention that if he did move up there and it didnt work out and he came back to FL he thinks his job will take him back and Im like you havent even moved there yet and your already wondering if you job will take you back here if you came back! Im at a loss I know I need to stop "pestering" him everytime he comes over to see our son and I tell myself that everytime he does come over but I always end up doing it I need to "Act happy" and go on and just let him go and realize his mistake and maybe just maybe it he will realize the mistake before he moves I dont know am I crazy!!!
