Heya Lou,
Man does your W communicate like this all the time? That would drive me bananas, too!

I have troubles communicating with my H, as well. His father speaks in the same manner that H does, so I know it is a matter of just never learning how to carry on a conversation. He does things like: cut me off as I am speaking, hear what he wants to hear--no matter how many times I say, No my point is XYZ, he will still reply So you are upset about ABC? etc etc.
I have really made an effort to improve how we talk to each other but it is still hard somedays.

On to your wife: Well, if you know that she talks in circles about things, I wouldn't beat your head against a wall about it. If she says the printer's broken, tell her "I'll have a look at it." Anything else is an exercise in futility right?

But I can't help but think there is more to this. Can you have a regular conversation about, say, what you did that day without it being all convoluted like the printer example? If not, then yeah, that would bother me to the point of wanting to work on it asap.

Do the AD's make her fuzzy headed, or was it always like this?


Also, Lou, keep this in mind...if you are a literal minded person, who likes to work on things and process and collect knowledge (and we all know you are, lol) maybe she has just built up a wall about communicating with you. Maybe she thinks, "He's going to ask a bunch of technical questions that he knows I won't have an answer to..dammit why can't he just HELP me and not badger me with endless questions?"
So maybe her anticipation that the printer conversation is going to be difficult leads to that very thing happening.

I'm sure it is a Mars/Venus thing.

Sure is frustrating, tho!
I wanted to bang my head into the keyboard just reading the example, lol.

Take care,
Honey