Underdog wrote, << He's making progress too, so don't write him off as a complete loss. It's been hard to watch, but I have to just sit and validate. He's slowly getting there. >>
Where is there? I guess I am like most kids, they want their parents together AND happy. Sorry If I have you two setting a date to re-up (army term for re-enlisting).
<< They just care, and if they aren't as studied on how this is a mask for covering big fears, we can understand that too, can't we? >>
I agree with the mask to cover things up. I also observe people talking and see 2 people talking about the same thing, but not answering the other persons question or commenting about a similar element of the conversation.
For instance, both are discussing why the mushroom soup taste so good. One is talking about the soup base, the other is talking about the mushrooms and has no interest in the soup base.
<< I hope you see the value in being what you called "a simple person"........and are happy with what they have. >>
By simple person, I was refering to my ability to be flexable in various situations. Rigid or Complicated man or woman odrering a salad: Lettuce has to be a certain type, same with tomatoes, sliced not quarted, a certain salad dressing, you get the picture. Easy going, Simple or Common woman or man ordering a salad: Lettuce-any kind, no sand please, not too bitter. Tomatoes, if you have them. Salad dressing, French, 1,000 island, any kind of cheese, Ranch, almost anything except very vinegary types.
Wanting things to be a certain way that causes another person to work extra hard or long seems pointless. There are a lot of good things in life tht require work, but why get fanatical.
I did some counseling with out my W. I was lamenting about feeling under privileged. The C said the Coke I drank from a can was the same Coke the doctors drink on their boats on the lake. The gasoline that powers the Doc's cars is the same that goes in your car. I started to realize money does have its advantages, but I enjoy so many things the supposed rich enjoy.
<< I struggle to keep things simpler than they are. With a bunch of issues that arrived on my door step with my D7, it's often impossible, but I try. >>
I saw some of what you are talking about when I was in college in 1987 to 1990. The college had a hands-on learning disabled program on campus. Many LD and HC parents had very little social life when compared to parents with regular kids.
