Great insight! So you think she might be attempting to repair her childhood by acting out, huh? I think it sounds too plausible to discount.
The excessive desire for QT leads me to believe she was ignored as a child? Boy this is a toughie...
Laying land mines... well, I'm a reformed crazymaker. I'd say outrageous things or do blatant things to get a response from Mr. Wonderful. I usually got a response, but what I was hoping for and not asking for was reassurance or kind words that he noticed me.
When I didn't get the affirmation, my statements became bolder and more hurtful: "Maybe we should just get a divorce! You seem to like spending time with everyone else but me, so what would change?" Uh, famous last words, and I'm eating every one of them now.
I've mentioned this in my old threads, but looking back, I wonder why I was shocked? On his way out the door he screamed, "I have NO idea why you're so upset! This is what you've wanted all along!"
I remember thinking, how did you conclude that? My light bulb moment didn't happen until my sister pointed out to me that I had been egging him on for some time.
I had help here in discovering why that crazymaker in me existed. It took a lot of conscious effort to stop behaviors that were not helping me or my sitch. That compulsion still lurks under the surface, but I try to keep that girl under control...
So what are you doing to take care of Lou? Sounds like that might be the best plan of attack for you, my friend.
Take care and hope the weather is sunny up there. My loved ones are headed in that direction on Friday night! No snow until they are headed south again, okay?
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 