Quote: Example; W goes all out Thanksgiving and when everyone does not compliment her highly, W gets her feeling hurt and then she gets angry. I am learning; Better to give a little and not expect compliments than to give everything and demand compliments, not get, them and become angry.
I'd say what you SHOULD take from this is that your W is a Words of Affirmation person, so no wonder all your Acts of Service didn't make her feel loved! Quit fiximg things for her and picking up after her, and just tell her how wonderful she is! Lots less work and you'll get better results
Seriously - I commend you for doing the difficult work of trying to reverse this downward spiral. I know it seems unfair that you are doing all the work at first, but you will reap the rewards. Try ramping up the Words of Affirmation and Quality Time and see what kind of results you get.
I also know it's tough for us frugal types when married to a spendthrift. I don't know if you can teach an old dog new tricks, but would your wife maybe read a book like Smart Women Finish Rich? Very sound financial advice in an easy-to-read format.
What part of Montana? My mom's from Joliet, on the road from Billings to Red Lodge
