Thanks SM.

But the praise doesn't really help with the problem unfortunately. Any ideas on how I can change my mind set to be more concerned about the W's needs?

Little past history.... In ALL of past relationships I was unfaithful EXCEPT with W when we were in high school. Blew that one when we got back together though.... so that being said I have a long track record of only caring about what I think is right. ANy suggestions???????