Hi Sage - It wasn't until I got to your note about 'protecting himself' that the penny dropped - I know Betsey and many others have discussed the many rationales as to why less than the complete set of facts is apparently acceptable, and I KNOW this is something I need to get over.
I guess the big adjustment for me is that until the affair, NG was painfully honest with me, it was always us against the big bad world. Suddenly he seems to have found a new set of behaviour modes, and I think I'm just having a hard time adjusting. But I will.
And I will read the book you had linked up. After I clean up my closet and get rid of the other affair-related books
