Hi GBO, Deb and Jennifer - Well, the good cheesy tunnel is still there, but we had a bit of a rude shock last night. BTW, its either very late Tues or very early Weds over here, depending on how you look at it. I could not sleep, and so here I am

As NG and I were settling down after dinner (I make a mean pasta bolognaise) the phone goes and its ex-ow's H. Some of you may remember this is the guy who vandalised our front door at the end of Jan when he hot-footed it around to our place only to find we were on holiday abroad. NG was quite cool, and ended the one-sided convo quickly. All he tells me is that it was ex-ow's H, calling to say hi. I'm like huh? The only time this guy calls is when he and ex-ow have rows. I ask NG if this is ex-ow's way of re-establishing contact (NG swears, there has been no contact since THAT email).

Anyhow, I ask NG what he is going to do about it, and he says nothing. I'm like, should we not at least report this to the police - they still have an open file after the vandalism. NG says maybe. I ask him if he will contact ex-ow - he says no, but that it would be good to let ex-ow's sister know what is going on, and asks me if I would call her I then say, well a call to say hi is hardly anything she would be interested in - NG then says the guy had been hurling abuse down the line. So, I ask him, what else am I to discover later - why do I not get the whole truth in one go - and NG says that he will tell me things at a pace he thinks I can handle

Guys - what do you make of this? ow's H is really a simple guy, and is probably being played expertly by ow. I'm dismayed that NG is not taking this harassment seriously - but neither do I think it is my place to fix the problem. Calling ex-ow's sister, or the police - surely he needs to take a lead?

Help!

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