Hi Kelly, Jennifer, GBO and Betsey - You guys are just so good for me I honestly think I'm getting to grips with what I used to believe was the role of transparency in a relationship, with the need for each of us to just be ourselves, complete with personal space.
Can I just say, NG and I have had a really rough evening - not with each other, but with some bad news regarding some old investments. Basically, we stand to lose almost all that we put in, the equivalent of a year's combined earnings. We agonised over what to do, and finally decided to bite the bullet, liquidate the holdings, and move on. Painful, though. But, even in this situation, I found dbing useful. Validated NG's perspective, looked at the big picture and generally focused on what was important.
Looks like lots of discussions for me to catch up on here - its been a while I've looked forward to insomnia
I honestly think I'm getting to grips with what I used to believe was the role of transparency in a relationship, with the need for each of us to just be ourselves, complete with personal space. 
