Hi Jen - Interesting question posed by your coach, and yes, I totally agree with your answer. Yet another interesting perspective. Today I feel like we are all walking wounded, healing slowly. There is just such a wealth of experience here, I am constantly thankful for having found you guys
Just journaling Thursday. Work-wise I got my scheduled tasks done, but it did take a lot of mental and emotional discipline to get there. I called NG at 9 in the morning, he was just having breakfast, and said he will call back later. Noon, got a call from the lawyer about a detail on our flat sale, called NG to confirm decision, said he was in meeting, and would call back. 3 pm texted him, before heading into a meeting of my own, and he texted right back, so I called, and guess what, he was free as a bird, what was that with not returning my 2 earlier calls? So I wrap up the lawyer discussion, and let him know I was going to indulge in some retail theraphy to lift me out of the blues. 730 he calls, I let it pass, I was having dinner with a friend. 8 pm he calls again, I answer, he just tells me he is out with a couple of colleagues (read no privacy) and that he will call back when he gets to his room.
Here we are, midnight, no call from NG. I really am not sure what to make of it. Why say he will call back and then not do so? He comes back Friday nite, and I'll be picking him up at the airport. I plan to dress well, and have a smile pinned on my face. But during Friday, I will not be calling or emailing him. Just tired of this one sided effort into our R.
Time for bed over here. Have a great evening, you guys. Slowly
It's been a rough night, mulling over why NG was so uncommunicative yesterday. And why I was in pursuit - yuck. Have to go into a major 180 today, and I need you guys to hold me on this:
- I will NOT initiate contact with NG today - no calls, no emails, no IM, no text. I know this is going to be hard, but I think I have to do this for my own self respect
- I will NOT be at the airport UNLESS he contacts me during the day. I think I've become boring and oh-so-reliable and just need to be a little vague, so he has the opportunity to get me back in shape. There is an office party, which is likely to go on all night, so I could just have not realised how late it was, if he does call from the airport all irate.
Here's another option - you text him there's a party you are going to tonight, and leave it to him to get in touch with you about whether you are going to meet him at the airport, and he can also wonder about this party a little!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
Hi Lnl - Good point. I think I'll wait till after lunch and see what transpires, then let him know about the party. This is hard, I do miss his voice... Sigh
Phew, he called During his lunch break, sounded like a hectic day. 2 min convo, gave me his flight details. No endearments
But, he called. I need to take this one step at a time. Most of the 'problems' seem to be in my head, I think.
So, I'm giving myself the afternoon off, going to read up on the assignments from Trish and Betsey Then off to the party, then to the airport. Probably have a lie in tomorrow, we have a party to attend Sat evening. Nothing planned for Sunday, which is fab.
Hi GBO - Thanks for stopping by - so far it has been a wonderful weekend
Picked up NG from the airport late Friday night, we had a very connected night, took it really easy on Saturday, went to a tea party, then hung out with friends for dinner. Today promises to be just as chilled out.
One of the small changes I have made, which seems to have altered the dynamics of our R a BIG deal, is not stressing out about all the things that are not done. I used to jump out of bed early at weekends to clean/organise files etc, while NG was having a lie in. I honestly thought I was being a constructive partner Given that QT is his major LL, I can see how he would have felt his tank depleting every time I woke up hours earlier. Now, most of our intimate chats happen as we wake up slowly. So the filing is not done, well, we'll survive I'm sure
Happy Monday everyone - Happy November too Hasn't this year just flown by? Its just over eight months since I discovered dbing and this bb - now, here is an anniversary worth celebrating
Lousy night with very little sleep, both of us recovering from chest infections. Bound to be grouchy today, so I'm pegging my expectations really low - it will be wonderful if I can avoid bursting into tears - sleep deprivation on top of PMS will do it every time
Then off to the party, then to the airport. Probably have a lie in tomorrow, we have a party to attend Sat evening. Nothing planned for Sunday, which is fab.
Given that QT is his major LL, I can see how he would have felt his tank depleting every time I woke up hours earlier. Now, most of our intimate chats happen as we wake up slowly. So the filing is not done, well, we'll survive I'm sure 
Hasn't this year just flown by? Its just over eight months since I discovered dbing and this bb - now, here is an anniversary worth celebrating