Still Learning

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Hey Slowly!

You get it, you get it! Woo hoo! Now that you had that second of clarity, I'm going to bet that you create more opportunities in the future.

I thought of you this morning when mulling over my reaction to a bizarre play I saw last night. It was about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict in a personalized setting--where people represented the situation. It was both very disturbing yet funny, and it ended with humor but no conclusions.

Anyway, the character who represents George W. (and yes, he has his Tony Blair counterpart as well) had a really interesting role. They were both funny and their interaction with each other was hilarious. They are called to help "friends"...

All 4 characters are in the apartment and he's watching the 2 representing Israel and Palestine go after each other with a vengeance.

Both sides aim to get what they want... "Israel" to be allowed to have her own space in the apartment they share, for her grandfather used to own the apartment and the family still owns the deed to the place. Since she hates Brutus (Palestine), you imagine she should just leave.

"Palestine" wants her out and for things to go back to the way things used to be. His family hates her, and they are threatening her and taking the offensive to get her out of the apartment. Since he lives there too, he says he's not leaving. He launches into a diatribe about history, implying that some things should never change because of the deep-rooted history--because they've come to learn that their families have been bitter enemies for a very long time.

The George W. knockoff character shouts out loudly, "What good is history if all it does is make you mad and make you hate now?"

Well, the hate part didn't apply to you or anyone else here, but the mad part did. And I'm guilty of this as well.

So the magic question? Why do we continue to let the past interfere with forward movement? I might have to take this to my own thread, you know.

Just a thought provoking comment I felt was pretty powerful. Now, my segue into changing dynamics...

One of the things I finally learned in MC last year was that I do have the power of changing a dynamic... by not doing anything. I was the person who forced and maintained momentum in my R, and it was I who expected him to keep stoking my fire even though I was clued in that he didn't appreciate my expectations.

It took months of just doing absolutely nothing for me to turn things around. I really and truly cannot remember the last time Mr. Wonderful and I had an argument. Since we talk more now than we did when he was living at home, I have to tell you that this is big stuff. And we now talk about really difficult, touchy and emotional topics.

For me, I can now see our recent history as pleasant (decision making notwithstanding). The memory of his leaving me (which in our "history" only spans a very short period) is now replaced with mostly good memories before then and a lot more pleasant ones in the interim.

I think he and I are both very willing to see each other as we are now. And the sum of who we are individually, right now, is a product of all the experiences and lessons we have both brought to the table. I can now see his lesson to me as a very valuable one. How can I hate him for what he's done, when it's so clear that we have both come out of this mess happier?

My point is that we're "creating history" each and every day. I'm sure some of it isn't going to bring smile to anyone's face, but I really and truly see that change is imminent and it CAN be achieved if we just let nature take care of the momentum.

I really and truly see these desires here with you and NG, Slowly.

I hope your weekend is filled with abundance and fondness as you create NEW history.

Now, time for me to workout!

Betsey