How brilliant of you to at least realize after the fact that it was within your power to have changed the dynamic.
It is easy to forget when we see our H's being self absorbed or thoughtless, that they really do want to be manly men. I know I am guilty of taking some of that away from H because I perceived that I could get things done quicker faster better on my own (prob true). But by doing everything for myself or on my own H didn't feel needed. Now I am trying to let him be in the drivers seat more.
Part of that is also living with the choices and decisions that H makes w/o saying "I told you so." I am talking here about small things, like if H wants to go to a certain restaurant and I think that it will be really crowded, I just keep my mouth shut. If we get there and it is too crowded, then so be it, we will either leave or wait. But then H doesn't have to listen to my litany of "that is too crowded, or that is too far, we have to get up early."
I need some practice on letting go and just living, without having to analyze everything from every angle along the way.
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