Hi Pam - Yuk is right, and the child in me just wants to sit down and wail. But, I'm taking Bets' pointers seriously, I do think it is a dynamic that creates these actions/gestures, and we can change the dynamic. I saw some of that last night at dinner.
We were out at a casual bistro with his uncle and aunt, it was fun, chaotic, busy. It took 15 minutes to place the order, we were all getting into the food and chatting away, and partway through the meal I realised that I needed a refill on the wine. So happened the waiter was whizzing past me, so I just gestured to him I needed a refill. and turned back to the table to see NG looking bewildered as if to say 'why did you not get me to do that?' And in that moment, I saw that if I had cultivated a little more patience, and a little more 'helplessness' a beautiful moment could have been created
