I hope that you has a lovely breakfast, is it almost tea time there?
The quote below really hit home with me today.
Quote: Something that I am struggling with right now is my own expectations of NG. For so many years, I accepted that he is a minimalist, dry, witty fellow, for whom displays of emotion were considered 'wet'. When OW shared with me the things he said and did with her, which were all the things I'd have loved, but thought were beyond NG's scope, it hurt. Still hurts. Why would NG declare that I am his choice, but not accord me the gestures I now know him to be capable of?
The things that I know that he did with OW were all things that I would have liked to have done as well, but would have never asked or pushed H to do because I ASSumed that after 15 years of marriage that I knew what H was capable of and what he was and wasn't willing to do.
There were things that I never pushed him to do because of the demands of his travel and business I knew that he was tired.
But from a distance (and my perspective) he did a lot of those things while he was romancing OW.
yuk
I am praying for the day when H realizes that doing things for me is an investment in our R and not just a way to maybe get "lucky."
Maybe inherent in that is an ASSumption that he will one day stop being so self focused. Big assumption.
