Still Learning

[Underdog]

Well, Slowly, my parents spend a lot of time in the UK, so maybe anything is possible!

I am absolutely committed to not working today, so at least I'm making an effort to being productive somewhere. You're stuck with me today. Well, at least until my boss gets back from lunch!

Okay, if not giving birthday gifts has been your M.O. all along with NG, why were the unspoken expectations of something different present? If you really wanted something from him, why not ask?

NG, this year it would make me happy if you gave me a gift from your heart. The gift I would cherish most is if you write me something that tells me why I'm special to you.

I see no reason why you shouldn't be able to do this?

On to OW--here's what I see. Not from a vantage point of NG, but of Slowly. Correct me if I'm wrong...

NG, I saw the consolidation of OW's phone numbers on your cell. I admit that I'm feeling afraid. Afraid that I am not your choice. Can you help me overcome my fear?

I know you've been lurking on my thread for the time being. Defensiveness is a form of anger, and I'm going to venture to say it rears its ugly head when a truth pops out.

Honey, I suspect he's feeling all the same fears as you are. If you are adding to them, chances are he's playing out a couple scenarios in his head to hedge his bets. What on earth can you do so that he can feel as though a life without you is not an option?

This is what I see from his decision to take your name off the title:

Holy heck! I have no idea how I stand a snowball's chance in he!! with her! Most of the time, I really feel that we can make it, but she has some stumbling blocks that are making me fearful of us ever staying married to each other.

I really wonder if she can ever forgive me so we can just get on with working on being happy?

Better start putting myself in a position to make things easier on myself in case that ever happens.

Sweetie, are you doing things, saying things or thinking things that may be triggering his fears?

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