Happy Monday everyone Just one more week of holiday to go, but I'm feeling that even the past few days have done me the world of good. Feeling a lot more grounded, and comfortable in my own skin.
I mentioned quietly again this morning that we needed to sort out the title of this house to NG. He does not raise any objections, but is not rushing to get the ball rolling either. If nothing happens by Weds, I think I'm going to call the lawyers myself.
Had my LOOONG overdue visit to the dentist last week, cavities are all gone hurrah Some touch up work to be done tomorrow, and I'll be all set with a much more confident smile. The party last Saturday was FAB. Caught up with some wonderful friends, NG seemed to have a good time too, though he was somewhat subdued. This is the first time that I've gone ahead and organised my own party - usually I wait for him to 'surprise' me, but figured after 20 years, it just ain't gonna happen. Might as well make my own fun.
I think he is finally begining to understand what it means not to have me bend over backwards to be helpful. This morning, I got the chequebook out to transfer some money from our business account to my current account, and he wanted to do the same. I wrote out the cheque for both of us, but filled in the pay-in slip for just mine and did the stamped-envelope bit. Now, in the past, he has been quite critical about how I'd addressed his envelope. This time, he waited around for about 5 minutes, then accepted that I was not going to do it, and proceeded to fill in the slip himself. A little grumpy about it, but I just ignored that. As I reflect on the number of ways in which I used to do little and large things, and was not always appreciated, I can kick myself. No more. He needs to ask for it, and then be appreciative.
No major drama. OW's phone numbers are still on his cell program. I guess part of me is still waiting for the other shoe to drop. But, not making my concerns visible to NG. I know these can turn into walls, but for now, here is my comfort zone. As Pattie says, its time for me.
Just one more week of holiday to go, but I'm feeling that even the past few days have done me the world of good. Feeling a lot more grounded, and comfortable in my own skin. 
Some touch up work to be done tomorrow, and I'll be all set with a much more confident smile. The party last Saturday was FAB. Caught up with some wonderful friends, NG seemed to have a good time too, though he was somewhat subdued. This is the first time that I've gone ahead and organised my own party - usually I wait for him to 'surprise' me, but figured after 20 years, it just ain't gonna happen. Might as well make my own fun.
