I have noticed the last couple days that my H will not touch me anywhere other than my back or arms. What's up with that, I want to know.
I have come up with two plausible reasons: 1) He is burning with desire and is afraid to touch me, lest he get caught up in a passionate frenzy and take me way before I get the OK from doctor. 2) He is disgusted by my flabby postpartum body and would rather avoid it until it changes.
Oh wait. I thought of a third: 3) He has no sex drive and therefore no desire to touch me anywhere else because I might get the wrong idea.
Doh! I thought of a fourth: 4) He is too tired to put forth the 'effort' that PT requires.
He is an Acts of Service man and since there is no controversy on the board lately, let me spark some by saying this:
Acts of Service people suck!! What an ineffective way to show love. Isn't LOVE by definition supposed to have something to do with the other person??! I mean, come on, I appreciate the fact that he bathes the kids but does that show love to me? WHY can't I see that this is what he is trying to do?
I am mostly kidding with the above attempt at controversy but there is a kernel of truth there. When I try to show love to him, I am all about HIM at that moment. How in the hell is taking out the garbage about me? Yeah yeah, he's trying to spare me the task (and I do appreciate the gesture don't get me wrong) but it is as much about him liking a clean house as it is about doing something for me. Oh wait, I suppose all love languages are like that..cause I DO get something out of hugging or kissing H.
See, people, if you let me ramble on long enough I eventually answer my own gripes.
