I get what you mean about the hugging thing...if my H is in the mood to hug me "after hours" ( meaning after we have officially gone to sleep) then he is free to do so, but I don't have the same leeway with him. Sometimes he will say something like " I have a crazy day tomorrow" which is my signal that I had better not disturb his sleep by actually wanting something from him. He gets all freaked out that he won't be able to fall back to sleep and it'll be an extra sucky work day. There are nites when I do want that hug ( or more but let's stick to hugs) but I know better than to invade his sleep space, so I will go downstairs and read a book or whatever, when I know all I really need is a little physical comfort. Invariably, he hates this too, as he somehow realizes, no matter how unobtrusive I am, that I left the room and somehow he can't sleep, probably because he knows something is up with me and he feels guilty because he knows I know I can't turn to him. So he wants me there, but not "bothering" him in any way. He is also bad at setting boundaries at work( but great with me).
Okay, enough venting. Happy your H did such a sweet and loving thing this weekend and that you felt turned on as well. Honey is back!!!
