You know, I have suggested the morning thing SO many times and, at first, he would laugh it off as if I were making a joke. Then when he realized I was serious he was aghast! He said, You want me to get up at 4:30 just so we can have some time together or...or...have SEX?!
I continue to mention it every now and then, just to keep it fresh in his mind that he owes me something...morning, night, whatever. He has, in the past, indicated that our time will come when our kids are grown!
Ha!
He's pretty confident that I'll still be here, pining after him, isn't he.
At any rate, I do believe that the bigger reason is that he fears that if he were to get up earlier and spend time with me, he'd get so engrossed in it that he'd be late for Mass. I make it out that my H can blow me off like it's nothing but it does take a good amount of concentration and effort on his part to do so. If he allows himself to relax and enjoy my attention, he's a goner. Hence the reason that he avoids many situations in which I want to give him attention or love and affection--cause then he is not in control anymore..?
Oh and one more thing: If I were to ask H for a hug or some time together at any other time during the day than between the hours of 9 p-4:30 a, he would gladly oblige me. He does not really withhold hugs or kisses from me, although he does keep his sexuality hidden away inside him and wait for ME to drag it out. My point is, though, that if I want him alone (and not a 'family' hug) I have to do it when the kids are asleep. But that is the time of day when he absolutely freaks out if I want something from him. If it is HIS idea, that's fine, let's get it on. But if I am initiating anything and it wasn't on his mental agenda, fuggeddaboutit.
Oh well, thanks for the suggestion anyway. This was a long winded way of saying, Tried that and he balked at that too!
