Quote: It sounds to me that he has a low-level 'mad on' at you
I agree with this, but I disagree that HP should validate his lame LD method of expressing his anger by expressing her appreciation for him. He needs to learn that withholding affection and/or sex is never an acceptable way to express your anger in a marriage. He needs to grow some big ones and learn to express his anger verbally. I told my H that if he's feeling overwhelmed by me he needs to just say "bullsh*t" or something similar and appropriate and I will probably just laugh and he'll "win", not giving me a hug is going to make me mad/sad and I'm going to say "bullsh*t" again and again if he persists in that sort of behavior.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
