Give your H a break... he's already doing a lot more around the house than other husbands would when faced with the same situation. Plus, he has told you that he's stressed over the sick kids, probably because sick kids = more work for him to do while you nurse the baby or rest. I'm sure he's overwhelmed and just wants to be left alone at night after he finally lies down.
As a result, couldn't you go snuggle with the baby when you need to have body contact with someone? And, you can talk to babies and they'll always give you an honest answer. *gurgle gurgle, coo coo, burp*
