I think that we all are stupid when we get married...we really don't have insight into what we are responding to, who we are, who the other person is, what marriage involves, etc. And to add to that, we go through individual changes and have different needs at different times.
I am speculating that if I did remarry, it would be to someone who would have to fit a set of criteria based on some negative experiences with H. I would put a lot of time and care into thinking things through, looking for certain characteristics, and prob marry someone exactly the opposite of H,lol. But the statistics are bad for second marriages as well, so it all goes back to appreciating what you have and making the most of it.
