Quote: Between X and W, I had a girlfriend for 7 months who was definitely HD. She never had to "pressure" me for sex
A girlfriend is not a wife and having your own place is not the same as having all of your worldly possessions commingled. Also seven months is not very long...As I think I said somewhere else, it's troubling about how sex in marriage becomes ABOUT so many other things besides communication and pleasure... it becomes about am I mad at you, did you overspend without telling me, are you doing your share of the chores, have I put on weight, is your new co-worker single and attractive... if one could park all of those issues at the bedroom door, it would be great. In a seven-month R with a partner you're not married to, those issues haven't had time to intrude yet. But add marriage, a couple of kids, repsonsibility, pressure, debt, work, cellulite, grudges, and it's a whole different thing.
