Do I really want my H to morph into being HD or do I want him to stay exactly as he is and just have the hots for me at the precise moment that I want him to?
Meaning, I don't know that I could live with a truly HD man. I think that I would start to feel overwhelmed by the attention. I would LOVE it in the bedroom, and many other places, but I wonder if I could live with it all the time??
I don't know the answer to that question as it has been far too many years since I have had a relationship with an HD partner and even then I was a teenager who knew nada about sex, let alone love.
In college, I had a 4 yr R with an LD man and then broke up with him (lack of sex was a big factor) and then hooked up with H. I also had a few flings in there but not long enough to discern what the boys' desire level was.
So I was wondering if any other HD people felt like this? Would the HD guys feel overwhelmed with an HD wife? I mean, I think we all fantasize about it, but it would really be a whole new ball of wax to LIVE it, kwim.
As a wife, I expect my H to provide for us (this was a mutual decision), to interact with the kids, to help around the house, to bathe our kids and get them ready for bed, to be responsible for all house and car maintenance, make time for an occasional date and weekend trip, and oh yeah, to be willing to ML passionately at least 4 times per week. More if the mood strikes.
This is a tall order and I realize that.
Actually I know there are many men out there who do all this willingly and would have no problem with that. I suppose my real question is this:
How would an HD person react to being under PRESSURE to provide more sex?
Would you be okay with it?
I don't know what my own answer to that question would be. I think I would love the attention and flattery, and certainly the sex, but I wonder if it would get old after a while? Is it the thrill of the chase that keeps the HD person HD?
These thoughts circulate in my head as I try to figure out why I keep choosing LD men and what it is about them that appeals to me, and vice versa.
More rambling to follow, I'm sure. Boy I'll bet you folks will be glad when I start sleeping again and have posts that make sense and stay on topic.
