Things are going very well here. There is a really good vibe going on..I know that next week, when H goes back to work, things will get hairier and scarier around here as I adjust to my new lifestyle as a mom to three little ones. But that, too, shall pass. I am optimistic and the mood is so much different than after the births of our 2 other daughters. I attribute that to the newfound closeness and intimacy that we have worked to establish over the last 2 yrs. Things will not be perfect (are they ever with a newborn?) but I feel so much better equipped to handle the stress this time and I think H does too.
He has also been LOOKING at me this week. Really seeing me and saying how much he "missed me" while I was pregnant. This has normally been his code word for being horny but I just cannot imagine that he is thinking sex thoughts at 5 days postpartum. I think that the feeling he is referring to is the knowledge that the only person inhabiting my body these days is me. For some reason that is a very comforting and soothing thought to him. On Monday night, ONE day after I had the baby (actually not even 24 hrs!) he was sitting at my feet giving me a foot massage (yeah he's a pretty good H:) and he looked down and said, Oh my gosh! I see your BONES on your feet! It really IS you again!! I was truly touched at how happy he was and at the same time a little mystified as to why a pregnancy could throw him off to the extent that it did. I know he is not unique in this regard but, still, every time I see evidence of how strongly it affected him I am shocked. Then again yesterday, he sat down next to me and was hugging and kissing me..just stopping short of a lovely french kiss..over and over. This is his MO, btw. He will kiss me in a way that indicates that he's up for some tongue and then it is up to me to take it to the next level. This time I didn't, cause I am not mentally there yet and quite honestly: If he wants me, let him show it, you know! I have gone thru a lot this week and I don't feel mentally up for taking up the slack in his sexual confidence.
And for all you inquiring minds, no I don't feel horny yet, although I do feel remarkably back to normal phsyically. It is actually scary that I passed an 8 lb baby outta me and feel this good. But mentally I am all about the baby, as it should be at this stage of the game. I MISS my husband and sex sounds good in a connecting sort of way, but there is no physical urge for it yet. All in good time!
NOP, I wanted to tell you that my H feels exactly as you do in regards to little girls. At the moment she was born, when we saw she was a girl, he said (with a great deal of emotion in his voice) "I am so relieved it's a girl!" He really wanted another daughter but felt that since he wanted a girl, it would almost certainly be a boy, lol. He adores our little girls and they are going to be SO sad next week when he's gone.
To all of you who read my thread and give a hoot about my new family member, THANK YOU. God bless all of you for being so sweet and thoughtful. I felt so blessed this week to log on and see all the responses and helpful suggestions (massive dose of sarcasm there) on the name. Incidentally, I did NOT choose Fonda Dicks, though it does have a catchy ring to it.
