Hi Lee - I've not yet had the courage to go back and read my posts from the begining, the hurt is still a little raw. But I do hope to find what you did, that there has been tremendous personal and relationship growth.
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My love laugages are Conversation and acts of service. I know this and so does he, but for both of us it is difficult to talk the others laugage! I think i need to make more of an effort to converse in his!
Perhaps a re-frame may help. What if you met someone for the first time, and want to keep good contact going. It would be natural to reach out in their language, right? I think Michele's notion of being friends kicks in here too. We allow inhibitions to set in because we expect x and y from our 'spouse' - but we'd probably find it a lot easier to find easy ground if we were with friends. I too struggle with this, and hope to try this approach
