Wow,

It has been so long I actually had to look up my user name and password.

H and I returned today from our trip... we went to Hong Kong, mainland China and Tokyo. The purpose of our trip being to scout out new resources and manufacturing sites so that H can also do business in China (instead of just Brazil, and maybe God willing, Brazil will one day be a thing of the past.)

I could write for days on what those places were like, the culture, the people, the environment, the work ethic, the government..all so different from what we know here in the USA.

I really do feel that H and I are moving closer together, one tiny step at a time. And I continue to realize that OW is merely the symptom and not the problem. She managed to track us down while we were at our Hong Kong hotel, using H's expedia password. She called our room and I actually spoke to her on the phone, yeesh!

H calls her the "fatal attraction" as she is always using these whacked out manipulative juvenile tactics. After she found out that H and I were together she sent him an e-mail threatening suicide, what textbook OW behavior.

She is a desperate woman, that is for sure.

I snooped. I know, I know, bad dbing, but I found a photo of them in H's computer. I have to say it was sort of a relief, as she is not really that attractive and the two of them together just look ridiculous. Picture a 43 year old guy with his arm around a South American exchange student and you get the idea.

Long story short, I do not really know where the two of them stand as he tries to extricate himself from her (I think.) He goes back to Brazil in less than a week, but I think that I will try a "hands off" approach, rather than trying to micromanage his whereabouts.

For a Christmas gift he wants to take our boys to the Rosebowl in CA. I take that as a good sign.

Other good signs... he often held my hand or put his arm around me while we were together
asked my business advice
we 2x and he commented today that I was not supposed to be "having my friend" (H's words, not mine, for having my period) while we were gone, meaning he would have liked more
H seems to be missing family life

I am sure that there is more, but I am getting sleepy. I look forward to getting caught up here on the bb.

love to all,
Pam