Hi Anne - thanks for checking in, yes this does take an enormous amt of time and patience. My H's A has been going on for almost 2 years (yikes) although I have only been aware of it for about 14 months. In that time he has prob broken up with OW at least 3 times. I kicked him out of the house in April of this year and started actively dbing at the end of April.
Deb - thanks for coming to visit too. I am always glad to hear from you, even if it is just to say "hi." I know that there is not always anthing constructive to add to the discussion, but I do appreciate your steadfast emotional support.
Well H came over again yesterday afternoon and again stayed until about 9, I do see him making an effort to re-connect. Although when he speaks about it he describes it as an easing back in, and that he wants to have a courtship period of dating and not just move back home and be done with it.
Co-mingled in with the whole personal sitch is the sitch of his business and our finances. Is it just by coincidence that he needs my signature on some papers and all of the sudden he is here claiming that he wants to get back together?
I do not know the answer to that one.
More revelations from H...
***today he called OW a "broad" and said that it is not true that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, that there is still s*** on both sides
*said that his R was not going to work with her because there was no trust of him on her part (I will NEVER say this to H but it is like well, duh, how could she ever trust him or H trust her, their whole R was built around infidelity which by its very nature represents a breach of trust somewhere.)
*he says that there is more to life than just passion, that even though our M had no passion or intimacy (thanks H for making me feel 3 inches tall) that he knows that he was better off in that R than in his R with OW.
* wants to have a courtship period with me to re-build the romance
* also, I told H that I was going out tonight with friends (which I am) and he asked who (I wouldn't tell him because one of them is our C ~ long story as to how our C has now become a friend~) but he did ask if I was going to be in his neighborhood (which I am) he mentioned stopping by for
I do not know what the status is regarding China, but I know for sure that we are not going in the next 48 hours.
