Hey Pam- I am a new member on DB and dong DB for just a month and a half. REading your sitch made me feel hopeful that space and time do work for the H to think things over. It seems that slow and easy does it and not too muchhtinking on your part will help you enjoy what you are doing- how I wish I could go on a trip with my H and just relax and enjoy myself! I also have been told I think and worry too much. Today I will only think and enjoy this day. Tomorrow will take care of itself.