Quote: Slowly, if you are out there I have a question for you. At the end of my last thread you mentioned that you could guarantee that H's wake up call would come soon. Can you clarify for me what you meant by that?
Well, I guess I was relating to my own experience. NG in the begining used to be so conflicted about his feeling for two women, which for him were real. Since then, I have seen his feelings for OW change, from intense to tolerance as she struggled to hold on to him, and finally that email he sent her. I do believe they go through this cycle in their own time, which we cannot control. What we CAN do though is influence their thinking by being a clearly more attractive alternative.
Have you read the perspective of walk aways - I know it helped me a lot a few months ago. Here is the link
Just another thought, Pam. Never be at home on a Saturday night - NG stopped seeing OW in the evenings from the day I went out and did not come home till he called me four times to find out where I was. I never asked him where he was, just did my own thing. Makes them think very hard when the shoe is on the other foot, and you need to give him the opportunity to see what it is like, or else how will he find out? Most importantly, going out with my friends gave ME a lot more confidence. I genuinely felt better, and was able to put the drama relating to NG into better perspective.
Now, promise me you will NEVER ask him again when he is coming home. Make like it does not matter, because there is so much else going on anyways. OK?
Slowly 
