Well,

I just got back from dinner with MIL, BIL, SIL, SIL, 2 nieces and one nephew plus me and my two.

One big answer to prayer was the gossip monger SIL did not ask me anything about H. I was worried that she was going to try and drill me in front of the boys, and if she had said "how is H?" I was prepared to say "Why don't you ask H?" But it never came up, so I am VERY thankful.

No word yet today from H. I'm hoping that he stuck with his plan to leave Brazil today.

It would be way too much to expect for things to have broken off between him and OW, so I am just hoping that they have further deteriorated.

Does this ever happen to anyone else? I occassionally pop in and read a thread or two in Newcomers, or Affairs. There is always a thread there from someone who has JUST discovered that their spouse is having an A. And they always think that it is over when it is so clear that it is NOT. I am never sure whether to clue them in that this is such a long tedious process that takes years and certainly not weeks.

Months ago I made a ref in my thread to my H going back into the MLC tunnel and someone replied to me "Honey, he has not yet even begun to emerge, much less go back in."

If that was you, then thanks, you were so right and this is a LONG and very STRANGE journey.

Pam