After your post to me yesterday I went back and did a "show all user's posts" and just kept going back back back, trying to get somewhere close to the beginning of your sitch so I could get the gist of your story.
I ended up going back as far as Sept of 2002, your H was due to come back on Sept 11th and I read that whole thread and the one after it. I am sorry to have to say that it did sound like your H really had his mind made up from the get go, and there was no turning him back although I am sure that you gave dbing a valiant effort.
My H also went there on business and had no warning as to how sensual and exotic the culture/women were going to be. He was actually fixed up with OW as a favor by another Brazilian man who was trying to earn H's business. After I found that out I wanted to find that other guy and tell him "thanks for the favor buddy, f*** off," but of course my H was a willing if naive participant. I think he met OW on his 2nd trip there.
I don't think OW is any prize, other than that she is young and prob beautiful, I've not laid eyes on her. Although I did travel to Brazil in Nov 2003. OW has 3 kids, is poor, uneducated, speaks only minimal English.
You are right, my H is still waffling big time, the passion that he feels from her is what keeps luring him back.
I have wondered myself how much of it is truly passion on OW's part and how much of it is about the $, the trips she takes with H, the house he rents her, about getting to the U.S.? I don't think I will ever learn the answer to that so I guess I won't worry about it.
I will say that when I read your thread and saw some e mail that your H had sent to you and the first word was "Oi" it made my heart sink. I thought this is a woman that knows my brand of Brazilian pain.
