Hi Pam, I've been following you and not had time to post, just want to let you know I'm here. Also, I think that it really is a great positive that your H called you 2X and is confiding in you RE the state of the A/R.
You asked how you should be when H comes home, and I think you have it down in your comments about calm, serene, and a combo of "all three" of the Pam's.
When I was nutsed out about H & OW going to a workshop in August, (I'm still not convinced they didnt, but oh well) I remember Ellie posting on my thread that what she wanted me to do was be cheerful, happy, and loving when he got home....that OW was probably being a demanding b---h ( I know now she sure was!) and that I would seem like a breath of fresh air to H after a day of her drama. So, I nutsed out while he was gone, repeated Ellies directions over and over to myself, put on fresh make up and a smile and MADE myself cheerful when he walked in the door. I believe it worked, and think Ellie gave some of the best advice I ever got.
I'd bet that OW in Brazil is really going off the deep end with pressure right now, and that's what happened in my case, although it seemed to take forever. OW's demands seem to have driven him straight home.
So, you go Pam! Be happy, calm serene cheerful confident and plant more seeds of how great what he's got is compared to what he thought he wanted.
PS...looking sexy wont hurt either, although you may want to not make too many advances at least for a while.
Just my .02!!!! you're in my thoughts and prayers! Deb
