Hi Pam - I'm going to try to re-frame your question
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I am also glady accepting any ideas for what to do/say/think/act as if once H returns on Sunday.

What would H's state of mind and emotions be? I can think of three possible scenarios:
1. he has definitely wrapped things off with OW, and struggles with the enormity of his decision (if it is for real, it HAS to have been HIS decision)
2. he has promised OW he will always be there and struggles with how to reconcile OW with his obligations (all he can see right now ) with you and the boys
3. he has been through the motion of breaking up with OW, but is already trying to figure out how to get re-connected with her

What should he see of Pam that would draw him closer to her? In any of the three scenarios above?

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time