Quote: In my world it seems like if I were to stand up for what I want, while being close to my H....I am still compromising my needs? Does that make sense? Or am I still not getting it?
Standing up for what you want in the presence of your H is exactly what we are talking about, as long as he has a say in addressing your issues. That's what makes it so difficult. That's why it's easier, but less effective, to write him a note than to tell him to his face. That's why it's easier to separate, physically or emotionally, than to stand up for your issues in his presence. You will be afraid of his reaction, as well you should be. But you musn't allow his reaction to diminish your resolve or make you overreact.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
