I have to agree with you Annette...I loved it too, but that one was DEFINITELY directed at women...just like "Beaches". I can see how some men may not like sitting down and watching those...but personally I loved em both.
Quote: I know this (that women are big in the media industry), and so does she. I think she likes to play the "gender victim" card, and portrays the media as white men in suits.
HD...I figure she probably does know this as well, but still likes to get up on her high-horse about it. I guess those type of debates get to me the most...where you know the person you're debating with knows better, but they still persist in their point.
Quote: I guess those type of debates get to me the most...where you know the person you're debating with knows better, but they still persist in their point.
Oh, it actually gets worse. She says that she used to think as I did...about 15 years ago. She sees herself as the "teacher" and me as the "student." I told her that was really arrogant of her, and that I didn't appreciate it. She kind of backed down and said that I've "come a long way" since she's met me. That's somewhat of a back-handed compliment.
I really do consider myself a very sensitive man when it comes to women's issues. But I have to draw the line somewhere.
My H loved Steel Magnolias, and Beaches. The last few times we have rented movies at the local rent place, he always picks out sci-fi related flicks and I pick out what looks good. Well, he has complained that the ones he has picked out sucked, lol, while the ones I picked out he sat and watched and even enjoyed. Then again he doesn't really watch much sports either.
You know, now that I think about it he is very much a "yes" kinda guy. Whenever we go out to eat he always has whatever I have, he was never into sports, I like to watch certain things like figure skating. During the olympics I like stuff like swimming..... over the years he has come to watch and be interested in those things. Its like he chooses whatever I like. When we go out to dinner or something I ask him where shall we go, its always my decision. Same with meals and stuff at home, its always my decision. Its like he cannot make a decision on his own. After he first retired from the fire dept, he would call me alot during the day, finally after several months of this, I said to him, Make a decision on these small things. He was driving me wacko. Hmmmmmmmmmmm think I'm on to something here but not quite sure what Any opinions on this behavor?
That your wife claims to be a Buddhist AND a feminist is laughable. Say to her regarding the ad:
"If the speaker brings no personal, egotistic delusions into their expression, the occasion speaks for itself, the total situation alone determines what is said or done. Thus, in the case of the Zen master (or one who is 'enlightened), what-is-said is simply what-is.
In the case of the deluded person, however, the "what-is" includes his/her excess conceptual baggage with its affective components, the deluded ideas about the nature of "self," "thing," "time," and so on that constitute the person's own particular distortion of what actually is."
Meaning, the ad is neither good nor bad. The fact that she will take a stance on this refers to her own deluded ideas, and is a reflection of 'sense of self.' Enlightenment transcends 'self.'
Tell your wife she needs to refer again to her Buddhist readings before furthering the 'ad' conversation. If her readings are truly understood, there would have been no conversation of the ad at all.
Actually your hubby sounds a bit like mine. Mine actually hands me the remote control to the TV anytime we're watching...I don't ask for it, he just hands it over.
I consider this the symbolic handing over of control to me. He also rarely makes a decision to where to eat, what he wants for dinner etc. He's working on that though as I've explained to him that I make many decisions all day long (as does he) and I don't always want to be stuck with all the decisions at home. I've explained to him that sometimes it's actually a relief for him to tell me what he would prefer for dinner so I can just fix it.
Corri! I was wondering if you'd chime in on this...and in you come, ringing your Tibetan Gong!
Thanks for this. Her attachment (in this case, feminist martyrdom), is causing her suffering. She doesn't integrate her feminism with her Buddhism very well.
I do have to say sometimes he does take the control in some things. for instance.......... when I have class or a meeting he will decide what to have for dinner those days so I don't have to come home and figure it out. He does however, have certain shows he watches every evening during the week and would never give me the remote....lol....would tell me to go in my room and watch tv if I wanted to see something different.
Me thinks W needs to pick her battles more carefully. I would have not given it a second thought. I'm saving my thoughts for something that really matters...and that ain't one of them. Does she feel the need to constantly compete with men?
Any opinions on this behavor?