Funny you should say that. I was also real nice to the kids when H had A, but found myself angry and even yelling afterwards.
I recently went to a parenting course and that helped alot. I found out that each parent had their own problems, which made me stop feeling sorry for myself and that even in many good relationships the H is useless with the kids. They gave me such good techniques instead of yelling (which is by the way called escalating and both children and parents escalate). Now the kids and I have the best relationship we've ever had and I even look forward to being with them and practicing the techniques.
Well you can see I'm piecing my life back together and I don't really know what my H is doing. You said I want my H, but don't need him. I'm at the stage I don't need my H and to some extent don't think about wanting him anymore.
I recommend going to a parenting course.
I don't recommend my advice, sometimes I just write the advice, because that is what I am trying out or read somewhere and I honestly believe it will work, but I am not qualified to give advice. When I saw your post I was thinking the same thing, should I tell my H I'm hurt, but then I thought about it rationally and came up with no, so I advised that to you also. It's just based on my own experience.
