NTS, I think you are right. I dont want to talk about OW or the relationship, but I do want H to know sometimes I still get a little afraid he will do this again. How do I talk to him about this? I got this in an email yesterday:
Today's thought is:
Never does the human soul
appear so strong as when it
forgoes revenge, and dares forgive
an injury.
--E.H. Chapin
When something or someone makes us angry and we deny it or ignore it, the anger can become resentment. Resentments hurt us because they make us suffer. They make us angry, negative, and short-tempered.
The key to preventing resentments is to start expressing our feelings either verbally or in writing. We do this not to change the other person, but to unload from ourselves the poison of resentment. We can let go of it. We can be grateful that as we empty ourselves of negative things, the space will be filled with positive.
Today let me express my feelings in a way that feels safe and then turn them over to my Higher Power.
So, again, I ask, should I talk to him about how sometimes I get scared, or worried that if I am not always perfect or do something he doesnt like, he will leave me, or look for something else? And how long will this fear last? Should I tell him that I still hurt sometimes?
That is what I am dealing with now....
Oh, one positive, this weekend when H and I were away, he called me "hon", he hasnt done that since last March when OW came into the pix!
