Is it ok not to talk about what happened??

[Twisted1]

I am new to this, so please be gentle. I am not sure is this is the right place but I need some advice. I have just been recently going through a divorce. (see thread #811131 for a full picture). I am starting to read the posting and I am starting to get hope again for saving the marriage. What I need to know is, I am reading a number of books and web sites and I am starting to realize that I think some of this stuff could help my wife maybe slow or stop the D process. I know I have been the one who has been causing the problems. I am starting to make the corrections in myself. She keeps telling me that she cares about me but that she is apathetic about the relationship. I will say that things between us have gotten a lot better, as long as we do not talk about our feelings (me still loving her). Everytime I bring that up, she goes cold and distant. I do not want to make matters worse, but I would like to get her to look at the relationship differently. I want to talk but that makes things worse. She is happy that I have left, but that I see her and the kids 3-4 times a week. She works full-time and I am with the kids most of the time she is at work. Communication between us has improved greatly, she has even stated that it is the best the past two weeks then in the past 3 1/2 years. She is happy, relaxed, and there is less tension in the air since I left. I would like to persue more with her but I am afread to act to spoil what has been gained. While the problems have started years ago, Oct 15 is when the major meltdown begain, with me leaving on Nov. 8. What should I do? Thanks and love to all.