Ok heres my revised letter, let me know if its better...
H, I think I have been failing at trying to make things better with us. I have been letting your actions affect me too much which has been causing me to withdraw from you, which is what I was doing before when all the troubles between us first started. I have not been communicating with you very well when something is bothering me. I guess that’s the codependency part of me that I know I need to do some more work on. I would really like for us to be friends again… I would like to share positive and negative things about my days and my life and would also like for you to share those things with me too.
I have been trying to do all the things that I think you need and want from our relationship, but am not sure if I am doing the right things. I would really like to hear your input on things that I do that either you like or dislike. Just like I used to expect you to read my mind and know what I needed or wanted all the time, I now know that is not possible. It is ok to ask for what we want and need and I would like you to be able to ask for what you need without feeling guilty. I think this could really help us to start moving forward instead of staying stuck where we are right now. I am not saying we have to rush into anything, just that if we practice talking about certain things, eventually, it will come naturally.
H, I really want this marriage to work and I do understand that its not going to happen overnight. We will have our bad days and good days, and hopefully in the near future, our good days will outnumber the bad ones and our marriage will get stronger and stronger and we will both be very happy.
